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What to do when the Santa Story Changes (for parents only)

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Kate Coxall

25 December 2021, 6:26 AM

What to do when the Santa Story Changes (for parents only)

Many parents may dread the moment that their child may no longer light up at the idea of Santa and the magic of Christmas. What do you say to a child that has believed in this jolly, generous bloke with his magic and his reindeer?


We scouted around to find some ideas to support the transition from Santa to the more philosophical, keeping the Christmas magic alive.


One such idea shared by mother Lesley Rush via an admirer on Facebook is to tell your child that they are kind and thoughtful, mature and old enough now to become Santa. She wrote "In our family, we have a special way of transitioning the kids from receiving from Santa, to becoming a Santa. This way, the Santa construct is not a lie that gets discovered, but an unfolding series of good deeds and Christmas spirit. When they are 6 or 7, whenever you see that dawning suspicion that Santa may not be a material being, that means the child is ready.


"I take them out "for coffee" at the local, wherever. We get a booth, order our drinks, and the following pronouncement is made:

“You sure have grown an awful lot this year. Not only are you taller, but I can see that your heart has grown, too. [ Point out 2-3 examples of empathetic behaviour, consideration of people's feelings, good deeds etc, the kid has done in the past year]. In fact, your heart has grown so much that I think you are ready to become a Santa Claus".


"You probably have noticed that most of the Santas you see are people dressed up like him. Some of your friends might have even told you that there is no Santa. A lot of children think that because they aren't ready to BE a Santa yet, but YOU ARE.


Tell me the best things about Santa. What does Santa get for all of his trouble? [lead the kid from "cookies" to the good feeling of having done something for someone else]. Well, now YOU are ready to do your first job as a Santa!"


Lesley also suggests to "Make sure you maintain the proper conspiratorial tone".


She would then have the child choose someone they know, a neighbour, usually. The child's mission is to secretly, find out something that the person needs, and then provide it, wrap it, deliver it, never revealing where it came from. "Being a Santa isn't about getting credit, you see. It's unselfish giving".


Lesley mused about her first experience of this method "My oldest chose the "witch lady" on the corner. She really was horrible, had a fence around the house and would never let the kids go in and get a stray ball or Frisbee. She'd yell at them to play quieter, etc. He noticed when we drove to school that she came out every morning to get her paper in bare feet, so he decided she needed slippers. So then he had to go spy and decide how big her feet were. He hid in the bushes one Saturday and decided she was a medium. We went to Kmart and bought warm slippers. He wrapped them up, and tagged it "Merry Christmas from Santa."


After dinner one evening, he slipped down to her house and slid the package under her driveway gate. The next morning, we watched her waddle out to get the paper, pick up the present, and go inside. My son was all excited, and couldn't wait to see what would happen next. The next morning, as we drove off, there she was, out getting her paper wearing the slippers. He was ecstatic. I had to remind him that NO ONE could ever know what he did, or he wouldn't be a Santa".


"Over the years, he chose a good number of targets, always coming up with a unique present just for them. One year, he polished up his bike, put a new seat on it, and gave it to one of our friend's daughters.


These people were and are very poor. We did ask the dad if it was ok. The look on her face, when she saw the bike on the patio with a big bow on it, was almost as good as the look on my son's face.


When it came time for Son #2 to join the ranks, my oldest came along and helped with the induction speech. They are both excellent gifters, by the way, and never felt that they had been lied to because they were let in on the Secret of Being a Santa."



Psychologist and parenting expert Dr Justin Coulson advocates for the whole truth being told, as he told Fatherly.com.


"Christmas is going to be exciting and fun and enjoyable whether kids know the truth about Santa or not. In the same way that I can watch a movie that I know is complete fiction and still find the movie tremendously enthralling, our children can know the truth about Santa and still find Christmas every bit as exciting. I would argue the magic of Christmas can be even stronger if they know the truth about Santa from the beginning."


"Kids play make-believe all the time and they find joy in that. They can pretend to be superheroes, cowboys, doctors, or whatever they want. They know none of it is real but that doesn’t make playing less fun. In fact, fantasy can genuinely add to the enjoyment. There is some great research that shows that kids with greater senses of imagination actually have a better understanding of the lines between fantasy and reality."


Whether you choose to spill the beans or keep the game alive for another year, we wish all of you Santa's a very Merry Christmas.

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