Today is R U OK? day and if you are not sure what to say to someone after asking this question, the Rural Adversity Mental Health Program (RAMHP) has some suggestions.

If they are not ok, telling the person what you have noticed, is one of the ways you can keep the conversation going as you reach out to someone who might be struggling.

RAMHP Coordinator, Steve Carrigg, said adverse events - such as drought, floods, bushfires and a global pandemic - have taken a toll on many people, financially, physically and mentally. 

“Now, more than ever, our rural communities need to check in with each other and stay connected,” he said.

“Stressful events can cause feelings of worry and unease, especially when there are high levels of uncertainty involved.

“We need our communities to look out for each other. If you see someone you know who is showing signs they might be struggling, it is important to talk to them and to encourage them to take action.

“If someone says they’re not okay, it’s important to know what to say and learn how to start a conversation.

New guide to help the conversation

To help you know what to say after “R U OK?”, RAMHP has developed a new Guide – Having a Conversation, which includes tips on how to start a conversation. 

1. Pick a time and a place – Pick a good time and find the right place to have the conversation.

2. Be specific – Tell the person what you have noticed.

3. Ask questions – Ask open-ended questions.  

4. Really listen – Listen without judgement, don’t interrupt and acknowledge their feelings.

5. Let them know it’s okay – Reassure them it’s okay to feel the way they do, and that help is available

6. Support and encourage – Support them in taking positive steps to improve their mental health.

7. Follow-up – Stay in touch and check in again soon

8. Look after yourself – Make sure you’re going okay and ask for support if you need it

You can also access resources and information on the RAMHP website http://www.ramhp.com.au 

RAMHP has also developed a new dedicated website for rural men - You Got This Mate - which provides action-focussed tips and information to help men reach their best possible mental health. 

If you’re concerned about your own or someone else’s mental health, call the NSW Mental Health Line 1800 011 511 for advice, or call Lifeline on 13 11 14.